This may take years though. Online counseling is also more affordable than traditional therapies and may be an option to consider.
A lot of couples seek counseling and you might be surprised at the resources others can offer.
He sounds very classically alcoholic himself though you and he may refer to it as a 'drinking problem. I also told his family. I did so in order to not have to keep this secret to my self. This helps to be able to work towards any personal healing that may be needed and on changing those behaviors.
My husband is a firefighter. He is also a child of an alcoholic which stills drinks till this day. What you can do is nudge him along and let him know that it's a very serious issue to you and it sounds like you have. It is something very shameful.
It is something very shameful. The main thing is not to remain closed and isolated about the issue and to seek out all the help you can.
I think God is well pleased with us when we find ways to impart grace to our parents despite feelings of hurt or other abusive issues. He choked me and hit me. This may take years though.
I strongly recommend attending Al-Anon, ACoA and any other support groups you can find in your area.
However, this is when they put into practice what they've learned before while in therapy as to help them along. He comes from a family history of domestic violence. Leaning on God in this situation can bring much comfort and strength, and God can aid and heal your marriage relationship.
Online counseling can work well for the individual component of the therapy. Please contact me again if I can be of any further service. Maybe you can help me.
In sum, there are different ways that you can honor your mother without subjecting yourself to further abuse and you don't need to feel guilty about it.
Or, it may include the need to not overly focus on aspects of what has happened in one's childhood that has caused emotional, mental and even physical scarring that a parent may be responsible for.
I also think you should be able to share your feelings honestly with him about how hurt you are and try to build on that in a positive way.
However, this is when they put into practice what they've learned before while in therapy as to help them along. When he's ready he will come around. God has a way of providing help for us if we actively seek and reach out to others for help on the journey. God has a way of providing help for us if we actively seek and reach out to others for help on the journey. You could also work on ways you can incorporate some type of group component or other viable alternative into your treatment so you can get the best of what that offers too. I believe God can heal my marriage and that I am not in any harm.
I want to still see him, and I do see him for lunch and a movie occasionally.
He is in college, but with his mom when he comes home for break. I believe God also knows how deeply hard it is for some of us to carry this out so He often provides comfort, strength and community to help us do so.